It’s Father’s Day, and on this day, I’m extremely grateful
for my stepfather who’s been a huge part of my life for as long as I can
remember. My parents divorced with I was about nine, and I remember every
moment of it like it was yesterday. My mother was a single mom for years after
the divorce. In my eyes, it felt as if my biological father forgot my older
sister and I existed. As if we didn’t have the same blood running through our
veins. Tragic right? To this day, much hasn’t changed. I honestly haven’t spoken
to him in about 3 years. He doesn’t have a relationship with my son nor does he
acknowledge us. My older sister speaks to him from time to time but at this
point, I’m completely over that. I feel that deep down he desires a relationship
with my sister and I but doesn’t know how to get there. I’ve tried reaching out
multiple times and somehow we always end up where we started. I’m grateful for
who’s been there though, and that’s my step father Scott. He’s who my son calls
grandpa, he was there for my first breakup, every parent teacher conference and
the list go on. I sat down with him to get his side of the story of what it was
like becoming a stepfather. Here’s what he had to say…
What do you enjoy most about being a father? I love everything about
being a father. It's the most important thing a man can do is to be a
good father, tied with being a good husband. I have a very successful
adopted son, wonderful twin boys with autism, a beautiful and talented 12-year-old
girl, and two amazing step-daughters. Each of them have made me into a
better man and hopefully I've helped them grow into the confident individuals
that they are. What’s challenging about being a fatherhood? The main challenge is
juggling a busy life while making time for them. To be there for them no
matter when it is or where they are. To help them then when they need
help or just when they need someone to talk to. What do you wish for your children? Happiness. I want
them to simply be content with who they are. I want them to live their
life as their own face the world with confidence. What's your take on being a
step-father? I see it as no different
than being a father. I made it a point to treat my two wonderful
step-daughters just as I'd treat my own. I loved getting to know them and
watching them start to trust me. It wasn't easy, but I knew they would
come around. It's been great watching them from teenagers grow into the
very successful women that they are. What would you say to my biological father about
your experience helping raise Britney and I? That it has been a
wonderful roller coaster ride. Helping the two of you when you've been
down. Sharing the many successes you've both had. Watching my two
grandchildren grow into an amazing young boy and girl. Giving both of you
someone to be in that father role has been an amazing experience for me.
I love you both as I love all my kids. You make me proud to be a part of
your life.
As I'm sitting at work chatting with coworkers about life, I get asked the dreadful question. Breezy, why are you single? I wish I had some profound text book answer for them or hell, five dollars for every time I was asked by people in general. The answer is simple. I just wont settle! Being a single mother dating in 2018 is as complicated as trying to read Mike Tysons lips with your tv muted. Although I’ve struggled with self-image in the past, I’m in a much better place mentally and physically and know my worth. That alone is a powerful weapon. I often look at my friends and family members and think to myself….am I really the only one who doesn’t have a significant other? When will it be my season? As quickly as those thoughts creep into my head I try to shake them away with positive affirmations. See, I grew up in the church and understand that there’s power of life and death in the tongue. My prayers for my future husband are very detailed and I know deep down, the ma
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